Its All Good.

Maybe this isn't "All good" but it sure does have a positive message and positive way of dealing with negativity.

The girl looks about 10 to 12 yrs old. I would hope she can get out of the car on her own

At that age a child of any race should be more than capable of crossing a parking lot without supervision. The ONLY reason someone that old would need to be supervised would be if they had a mental deficiency that rendered them in need of help. I think the person who wrote that note is just a interfering, clothset racist busy body who needs to get a life.

projection is specifically, when you accuse someone else of your own faults in order to try to distract from your own faults.

just wanted to be sure it was not, for example, a homophobe accusing others of being racists.

That's a tough one Oz, especially if your GF doesn't see it the same way as you. My wife was never a heavy drinker but I was known to tie one on every now and then. After our first one was born, I just decided that alcohol would not be beneficial to raising a family. And after 35 years, I don't miss it one bit. I don't mind if other people want to drink, but I always felt a little uncomfortable seeing them doing it in front of kids (ours or their's.) I know we had this discussion here before and some think you should teach your kids to drink responsibly, but I preferred just to teach them not to drink at all. It worked for our family. Both my kids are adults now and neither one drinks.

I know the feeling well.
I am "dry" to all extents and porpoises, I seldom drink, yet, "well why cant you have just one" is still a serious family question when we are together...
If I have one, I want another, so I stay dry, and blame it on the fact I have to drive home "Well you can still have one and be legal?"
And then they start to go into exactly how much I can have and be still under the limit like I dont know and they are "Educating" me?.
Yeah, Me.
The Ex Pub Landlord.
Who's job it is to KNOW how much alcohol is in a drink.
I dont know of course,
40 yrs experience.
I need you to tell me.
Go on please.
I am intrigued.

Too much sarcasm?... you think?...

My Scottish part of the family accept the "I am driving", and ask what else I would like, no questions, no problems.
My other side of the family seize on it like its some weakness that has to be "Broken" and start the badgering like they NEED to wear me down, thats their only goal for the night.....
And then THEY get all upset when I announce I am going to leave if they dont stop the continual pestering?..
This is just my family, not all families are the same, but some differ only slightly...

I have spent a lot of my working life around drunks in various stages of obliteration, I know how it goes, and one thing I hate more than anything else is "Family pressure".
I have seen more arguments started by Family than anything else.

Except "the special one".
Every family or group of friends has one...
They go suddenly deaf when they ask you what you want to drink, and cant hear anything else except you asking for the hardest alcohol in the establishment with intent of a drinking game to see just "Who can drink who under the table".
You ask for anything else, and they just keep repeating "I didnt hear that" or some other variation of "pardon?.." until you request strong drink, and whatever you ask for has a shot of vodka added "just for fun" anyway, if you ask for a whisky it will be a double at least.

And then, you just having one and then home, and the challenge goes up...
"Jäger-bomb"

This, in the darkest corners of a storage room somewhere in Dante's infernal cellar at the bottom of the 8.5'th level of hell, is a concoction of "the strongest lager you got" with a glass of Jägermeister thrown in, glass and all, to settle near the bottom and empty into the drink as you drink it...
And the idea is "Down in one".
The internal Jaeger glass MUST hit your lips before you stop drinking....

The last time someone did that on me, I had left before they realised I had gone, I saw them wobbling back from the bar with a tray of about a dozen glasses, one for each of us at the table, and realised I needed to be somewhere else?...
I think they had had maybe tree or four more of them before the phone rang "Wheeeze are youze?.. "
I just said "I need to do something before I forget I will catch up with you later, give us an hour..."
Never did, they must have forgotten about it.

But the next day?..
The stories?...
Who did what to whom with what and for how much.
Strange thing is, they all sort of remembered me being there to the very death.....

On Whisky, No Pollution, No Dilution.
"You want anything with it" is usually answered with the joke "yes, another one".
The very idea of throwing Whisky into anything else?... about as abdominal as suggesting cooking with a single malt.

And the idea that the night is only over when your either thrown out or cant actually stand without assistance?..
It has been a few decades since that happened to me.

Watching other people do that, I have a "safe space", its working the bar.
Being part of a crowd that does that, I manage the first hour and then have to go because I have [xyz] early in the morning....
"I have to drive for a living, and be sober doing that, so unless you want me to spill a hundred gallons of acid through your letterbox tomorrow, I cant stay all night...."

Thankfully, the people that know me now, where I have lived for the last 10 yrs, are well accustomed to me not being a great drinker.

And I wont go into the art of the Landlords "half" and palming drinks ... the art of not drinking as much as it looks like you are.... we have ways and methods.
Its a dark art.

Let me just say, I had a "thick glass", that looked like it held half pint, that held a little over 5oz....



I know a few of them.
Thats all I need to say isnt it?.

For a country that "pretends" to lead they way on anti drink driving, we lag far behind in the idea of "Designated driver".
Those that are, are subject to a lot of derision.....
Especially by the very people they are supposed to be driving?...
I mean WTF?...
The poor sod is offering to stay off the drink and tramp your drunk backsides all over town so YOU can have fun, and part of that is making fun outa them for caring about your safety?..

For the record.
In MY pub, the one I ran, if you had evidence you were the designated driver, and often that was just that you were the butt of many jokes and the one asking for "orange jouce", I kept one of my Coffee pots and real fresh ground coffee on tap at the back of the bar and would server free refills all night to the designated driver.
Ultimate respect.
For anyone parked in my car park who surrendered the keys for overnight storage of their vehicle, minded that they wont get it back until mid day, their last drink was on the house [dont take the pizza?...] as long as they were not intoxicated before they arrived...
And yes, I did have one person try to "dump" his car there for the night after getting slitherined in another pub, and try and get a free pint outa me for doing that as well.
I also offered use of my shelf that was good at blocking phone calls, for those liable to get called out for work to store their phones in.
It was just pone part of my pub was a total black-spot for phone signals, the bit behind the bar... sometimes I had up to 20 phones on there at the same time....

it's a slightly different version, here.