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Post by silverdragon on Oct 2, 2014 9:04:04 GMT
This isnt any form of complaint, its just a discussion, on why some people feel the need to "Inspire" you to take up their hobby.....
Do they feel lonely?...
This is an "Anti-Hobby" thread to be taken lightly, I respect your own choice of hobby, and in no way is this representative of anyone's personal interests here, as I know we all would not ambush each other with our own interests.
I am suffering the idiocy of "Loom Bands", small elastic bands woven into many things they should not have been woven into in the first place.
A Friend is trying to convert me.... and is loosing my friendship that way slowly....
I also have a friend who makes Jam.
Why cant there be a recipe for just one jar at a time?...
They have to do TWO DOZEN jars, and then think that they make ideal presents?....
I maybe use a jar a year, and I really want to be able to choose my own, and use it before it goes off.
Now colour me sarcastic and call me a squirrel, but, I appreciate the thought, but no thanks?...
How do you refuse an offer like that?...
I do not like Blackberry and Apple jam, I will never use it, ... erm..... HELP?...
Loom bands, as you may have gathered, are not my interest either.
I will not partake, but they are trying the hardest to perk my interest, and I dont want to upset them by a point blank refusal... so I am avoiding them.... not the best way, I know, but I have other things to worry about right now.
I also have someone desperate to fall under my tuition for Photography skills....
They want, need, urge me to pass on all I know to teach them how to use their Camera....
Sod off.
Its my hobby, something I do for myself, I dont want an apprentice, I want to be able to pull out my camera without them.
I have another friend who has skills, we swap idea's but we dont need to form a club kind of thing?....
I also Bake.
I make cakes.
If people visit and there is a fresh one, they may be invited, but there will always be an alternative, and I take no offence... especially as that means more for me?...
I dont ambush my friends by baking them a cake without them asking me first.
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Post by mrfatso on Oct 2, 2014 15:15:21 GMT
I used to have a friend that was into Salsa Dancing and tried to convert other people into doing it, we eventually fell out over it..
He would say anyone can dance, I would point out I am Obese, suffer from Benign Positional Vertigo, so sense of balance is not good and had as a child to wear special shoes to combat fallen arches, these day I wear heel cups, so I do not feel confident in dancing. Still he would be quite incessant in trying to get me to come along.
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Post by the light works on Oct 2, 2014 15:46:52 GMT
to answer the questions, there are two kinds of hobbyists: those who do their hobby as a way to have something that is theirs; and those who do their hobby as a way to have a connection to other people. of the second group, there are those who are so impressed with their hobby that they suppose everybody else would also be impressed with it if they just had an introduction. you might think of it as religion lite. Crafters, in particular, seek an outlet for the product of their crafts, and some view a rejection of the product as a rejection of themselves. - besides the idea that their product is the best thing in the world, because they made it.
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Post by silverdragon on Oct 3, 2014 8:00:38 GMT
Dancing, I do NOT dance.
I cant.
It bloody well hurts, and it may aggregate my injury....
Edit.... Auto spelling suggest says I should use the above aggregate instead of aggravate, but as its gravel, I think it fits?... )
My family have been warned.....
However, I have to position myself carefully at any family gathering to detract from other people inciting me to dance.
One close family member would not take no as an answer, it was her Husband who eventually intervened, explaining AGAIN my medical history, and pointing out to all and sundry how distasteful it would be to incite a wheelchair user to get up and dance, so why is it different for a walking stick reliant person to also refuse?...
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Post by the light works on Oct 3, 2014 14:06:51 GMT
Dancing, I do NOT dance. I cant. It bloody well hurts, and it may aggregate my injury.... Edit.... Auto spelling suggest says I should use the above aggregate instead of aggravate, but as its gravel, I think it fits?... )My family have been warned..... However, I have to position myself carefully at any family gathering to detract from other people inciting me to dance. One close family member would not take no as an answer, it was her Husband who eventually intervened, explaining AGAIN my medical history, and pointing out to all and sundry how distasteful it would be to incite a wheelchair user to get up and dance, so why is it different for a walking stick reliant person to also refuse?... the worst is, being in soshulist England, you can't even threaten her with the medical bill. |
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Post by GTCGreg on Oct 3, 2014 14:09:11 GMT
Dancing, I do NOT dance. I cant. It bloody well hurts, and it may aggregate my injury.... Edit.... Auto spelling suggest says I should use the above aggregate instead of aggravate, but as its gravel, I think it fits?... )My family have been warned..... However, I have to position myself carefully at any family gathering to detract from other people inciting me to dance. One close family member would not take no as an answer, it was her Husband who eventually intervened, explaining AGAIN my medical history, and pointing out to all and sundry how distasteful it would be to incite a wheelchair user to get up and dance, so why is it different for a walking stick reliant person to also refuse?... Stick? You carry a stick? Well, THERE'S the answer to your communication problem. |
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Post by silverdragon on Oct 4, 2014 8:55:47 GMT
No I carry a loaf of bread, at all times, its about as much use....[/sarcasm....  ] However, I WALK with a stick..... if that helps?.... I use it to lean on to take weight away from a duff leg. |
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Post by mrfatso on Oct 4, 2014 12:52:04 GMT
More and more, I think half of us here are the walking wounded.
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Post by the light works on Oct 4, 2014 14:18:43 GMT
More and more, I think half of us here are the walking wounded. this is drifting a little bit, but more and more I am thinking "walking wounded" is the new normal - and that the next generation will be even more so. I think we are discarding due caution in the era of easy medical repairs, and kids are forgetting that some injuries are still permanent. (I guess that still applies to other people's hobbies) |
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Post by kharnynb on Oct 5, 2014 20:29:46 GMT
I don't share hobbies, short of my pc fixing. which follows these rulesWalking wounded describes me rather well  |
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Post by alabastersandman on Nov 17, 2014 2:33:40 GMT
One of my friends (I'll call him "Doug"... because that's his name) hobbies is recording everything he finds interesting. Not a bad hobby however he used to come over constantly and more or less expect to watch the shows with me. This definitely did start to get "old" after a while. Barely bearable but only because I liked many of the same shows/movies, I just didn't like to watch them as much as he did. I finally moved back to my home town (not too far away) where I had room to set up my pool table. That was a game changer (no pun intended), then all my friends (new and old) that liked to play pool came over constantly, as did Doug, we just didn't watch very many recorded shows after that. And now that I am married, nobody comes over, my pool table that has been in the family since 1973 has been sold (building a new one of my own design) and the pool table light still hangs in the basement for all to whack their heads on (thinking about building a ramp for the kids). Haven't seen Doug now in several years but do still consider him a friend. I must say I do kind of miss his collection of MST3K, nope, never-mind, just thought to check YouTube and what do you know? MS3TK episodes, gotta go, I'm off to YouTube. |
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Post by GTCGreg on Nov 17, 2014 2:53:03 GMT
And now that I am married, nobody comes over... Funny how that happens. |
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Post by alabastersandman on Nov 17, 2014 3:17:52 GMT
This isnt any form of complaint, its just a discussion, on why some people feel the need to "Inspire" you to take up their hobby..... Do they feel lonely?... This is an "Anti-Hobby" thread to be taken lightly, I respect your own choice of hobby, and in no way is this representative of anyone's personal interests here, as I know we all would not ambush each other with our own interests. I am suffering the idiocy of "Loom Bands", small elastic bands woven into many things they should not have been woven into in the first place. A Friend is trying to convert me.... and is loosing my friendship that way slowly.... I also have someone desperate to fall under my tuition for Photography skills.... They want, need, urge me to pass on all I know to teach them how to use their Camera.... Sod off. Its my hobby, something I do for myself, I dont want an apprentice, I want to be able to pull out my camera without them. I have another friend who has skills, we swap idea's but we dont need to form a club kind of thing?... When people ask me to "school" them in photography I explain a couple simple things to them and send them off. 1. I first tell them that photography is a science and that results are predictable and repeatable if you pay attention to what you are doing. 2. I explain to them the "Sunny 16 rule" which basically goes as follows; If it’s a sunny day, and have your aperture set to F/16 and ISO set to 200, to correctly expose your image the shutter speed needs to be set to 1/200 (the inverse of the ISO number). 3. When they have that figured out, go buy a light meter. There are other such "rules" for other than sunny conditions but I am not familiar with them. (No doubt because the friend who sold me my first manual 35mm camera (a Praktina FX German camera made in, as far as I have deciphered, pre-1949) gave me the same "schooling" and sent me off on my way) 4. I then tell them that photography is an art. Once you understand the science, you will be free to create art. You can now manipulate the light and/or the camera settings to get the exact image you want 5. Lastly, if this isn't enough information for them to get "grounded" on, they are not very interested in photography, so go buy a point and shoot to save themselves the trouble |
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Post by freegan on Nov 22, 2014 7:41:50 GMT
And now that I am married, nobody comes over... Funny how that happens. By "nobody" I presume that you mean none of your old friends. You still have all the new 'friends' that your wife approves of because they were her friends first. Funny how most of them don't really 'get' you, though.  |
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Post by silverdragon on Nov 24, 2014 9:46:07 GMT
I changed a lot of my friends when I moved here.
I realised a lot of them were just people I knew.....
A few of the real friends will visit from time to time, but, moving house teaches you who your real friends are?
The wifes friends .. do they "Get" me?... I hope so, because I dont care.
I am sociable to them, but, I dont over-try to be accepted, like some fools do, often painfully, and perhaps that laid-back version of me that tries not to get in the way and let them have space, as I realise they didnt come to see me?....
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Post by kharnynb on Nov 24, 2014 10:34:33 GMT
Some old friends i still mail/visit occasionally, it's harder if you live in a different country The wife's friends are pretty much my friends nowadays, i guess we have similar taste in friends. |
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Post by alabastersandman on Dec 2, 2014 5:45:35 GMT
By "nobody" I presume that you mean none of your old friends. You still have all the new 'friends' that your wife approves of because they were her friends first. Funny how most of them don't really 'get' you, though. Both my wife and I get a bunch of new friends since we've been married. I brought her here from the Philippines back in 2005 on a fiancé visa so she definitely had to stop hanging with her old friends. I had stopped hanging with all but two of my old friends after I quit drinking in 2001, and one of those is now also married to a Filipina. Now we have been members of the local Philippine American Association for the better part of eight years and friends with many members of the local Philippine Cultural Group. Both the Association and Cultural group have members from all over the state so we are constantly bumping into new people whilst attending parties with present friends. So we never really had any issues with old friends not being welcome or "good enough" to hang out with. Usually when going to parties or just seeing friends we both go, most party attendance/visits are done in two's if not ten's or 20's. |
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Post by alabastersandman on Dec 2, 2014 5:58:15 GMT
I changed a lot of my friends when I moved here. I realised a lot of them were just people I knew..... A few of the real friends will visit from time to time, but, moving house teaches you who your real friends are? The wifes friends .. do they "Get" me?... I hope so, because I dont care. I am sociable to them, but, I dont over-try to be accepted, like some fools do, often painfully, and perhaps that laid-back version of me that tries not to get in the way and let them have space, as I realise they didnt come to see me?.... When I moved back to my hometown and set up my pool table I suddenly had a lot of "friends" however I knew the "friends" from acquaintances pretty well. No matter they were welcome for the time that they were there, I enjoyed the company as well as a never-ending supply of challengers to play pool with. It was also nice when someone wanted to play pool and I wanted to not play pool for while, there was often someone else to take up the cause. I had quite a few "friends" that were actually my nieces friends, they were pretty cool kids and fun to have around so yeah never really expected them to be long term. |
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